MS MuSings
Monthly Online Magazine
by and for those with MS,
Multiple Sclerosis
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RE: Ms. Penny Pexman By Sherry Kersey Dear Penny, I can tell you from experience that children do not below the age of 10 understand sarcasm,nor should they , as is often laced with hidden meanings........or double visions,be as they may........but let me share an innocent one that taught me a valuable lesson as a parent........ When my daughter was quite small with the why`s, what fors, and how comes, I occasionally got irritated when I was busy doing something I thought of importance, and not wanting to show that flaw factor in my makeup, and still a wee ones natural curiosity, I took to addressing her as "My Little Hemorrhoid" on occasions of rushes activities..........never dreaming it would affect her in any way emotionally and would be one day fodder for laughter........ We'd both grown used to my little term and it became a pet name...... Kindergarten time arrived and I watched her in tears go out into the world where I knew she was to embrace world images/learning's and I could not stand vigil every moment...... Never dreaming in the space of a few short weeks I was the one to be learning a lesson about wordings...... School had been in session about 2 weeks while teacher got to know names and personalities of her new charges........my daughter was ecstatic with the many new friends and images....... Then one day she asked students what mom and dad's pet names were for them........ My little bird chirped her logo and the teachers went into a fit of laughter...... None told her why they seemed to be laughing at her........and yet she knew she was the butt of their hilarity.......after a few days I realized her happiness in the new adventure had disappeared and she was moody and would barely talk to me........and I began to wonder what was going on and if there was a problem with the teacher or another student......I questioned her but she was evasive.........somehow she knew I was to blame for that embarrassment, though knew not why......or how.... I called school and asked for details of her strange behavior, and the teacher went into spastic laughter, as she recalled the incident and my time of problem onset.......... I had to sit my innocent child down and tell her (((((((((NEVER)))))))) would I say or do anything to hurt her, and that it was my stupid choice of words that caused her agony and how (((((((VERY)))))))))sorry I was........ Needless to say, it took some time for her to get over it, and NO, it still to this day, is not fodder for laughter......and she's now 34 yrs. old....... Her face still shows the pain when the subject comes up...... Children are such delicate flowers and what we feed into them molds them for the rest of their lives........ Thank You, for sharing that article with the world!!! Maybe some will think before they made the same mistake I did, and save their wee ones from some of the hurts of life trails....... Sherry Kersey Reach Sherry by email to comment: skersey@neark.com
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