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Just
wanted to share this as I thought this was so appropriate.
I'm Invisible
From
Mummsy (Author and source unknown)
It all began to make sense, the blank
stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room
while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken to the store. Inside I'm thinking
"Can't you see I'm on the phone?" Obviously not. No one can see if I'm on
the phone, or cooking, or sweeping the floor or even standing on my head in
the corner because no one can see me at all. I'm invisible. The invisible
Mom.
Some days I am only a pair of hands,
nothing more: Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this?
Some days I'm not a pair of hands,
I'm not even a human being, I'm a clock to ask, "What time is it?" I'm a
satellite guide to answer, "What number is the Disney channel?" I'm a car to
order, "Right around 5:30, please."
I was certain that these were the
hands that once held books and the eyes that studied history and the mind that
graduated summa cum laude -- but now they had disappeared into the peanut
butter, never to be seen again. She's going, she's going, she's gone!
One night, a group of us were having
dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from England. Janice had just
gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel
she stayed in. I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put
together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself as I
looked down at my out-of-style dress; it was the only thing I could find that
was clean. My unwashed hair was pulled up in a hair clip and I was afraid I
could actually smell peanut butter in it. I was feeling pretty pathetic, when
Janice turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, "I brought
you this." It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe. I wasn't exactly
sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription: "To Charlotte,
with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees."
In the days ahead I would read -- no
devour -- the book. And I would discover what would become for me, four
life-changing truths, after which I could pattern my work: No one can say who
built the great cathedrals -- we have no record of their names. These
builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished.
They made great sacrifices and expected no credit. The passion of their
building was fueled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything.
A legendary story in the book told
of a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was being built, and he
saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and
asked the man, "Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a
beam that will be covered by the roof? No one will ever see it." The workman
replied, "Because God sees."
I closed the book, feeling the
missing piece fall into place. It was almost as if I heard God whispering to
me, "I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when
no one around you does. No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn
on, no cupcake you've baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over.
You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see right now what it will
become."
At times, my invisibility feels like
an affliction, but it is not a disease that is erasing my life, it is the cure
for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong,
stubborn pride. I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great
builder. As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see
finished, to work on something that their name will never be on. The writer
of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in
our lifetime because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that
degree.
When I really think about it, I
don't want my son to tell the friend he's bringing home from college for
Thanksgiving, "My mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies, and
then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and presses all the linens for
the table." That would mean I'd built a shrine or a monument to myself. I
just want him to want to come home. Then, if there is anything more to say to
his friend, I'd like him to add, "You're gonna love it there."
As mothers, we are building great
cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're doing it right. One day, it is very
possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we built, but at the
beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women.
Great job, MOM!
Share this with all the Invisible
Moms you know.
I just did. I'm also sending it to
everyone I know because we've ALL been blessed with some wonderful Invisible
Moms.
Reach Mummsy by email to comment:
EKRKPK@aol.com
Mummsy is
in our Gallery!
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